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 | The Hardest Decision |
I had my first child at the age of seventeen and made the great choice of keeping her. I am now twenty eight and still with the father of my child, we have had two more beautiful children, a daughter and another son. At the end of 2003 I discovered I was pregnant again. Totally unplanned, my little boy was only seven months old and my partner had been in a car accident and broken his back. I had to make a tough choice.
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[04.02.2005 13:51 - Kerry Ann]
| Story from a biological mother |
I became a mother for the first time at 16 years of age - I gave birth to a son on 7 May 1976 in Durban at the Mothers Hospital.
I saw my baby only twice before I was discharged from hospital. I signed the papers for his adoption in Durban six weeks later - and not a day goes by without wondering.....................
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[30.12.2004 21:46 - Vivien]
| Adopted and looking to adopt |
I was adopted at the age of 12 days old. My parents already had a son of their own. I don't really remember exactly when my parents told me I was adopted but somehow I always new. My friends never believed me when I told them I was adopted. Not sure if people think we adoptees must have green horns or something..... I was never phased by my adoption, I can thank my parents for this as they always treated me as their own child and never any different from my brother. We as a family had a very open approach to my adoption and my parents always assured me that if ever I wanted to find my biological parents, they would support me all the way. Their unconditional love through all the years has made me what I am today.
When I was 18 I decided it was time to find out more about my biological parents. Luckily my birthmother(BF) kept my adoption records up to date so when I made contact with the agency, the process of finding her was very quick. We both went through one or two sessions of councilling before meeting. I think this is very important as one is never fully prepared for this emotional roller coaster.
A few years later I met my biological father . I now have a wonderful relationship with both my birthparents. They both have their own respective families and children.
Our relationship is almost like a friend of the family. I have my own family and they theirs, I would never intrude and never expect anything more from them than the friendship and acknowledgement they have shown me.
My husband and I are now in the situation where we want to adopt a baby after many years of unsuccesful fertiltiy treatments. We would love to share our lives with another child and give him/her our unconditional love that my parents gave to me. I thank all those mothers that do give up their babies for adoption, that is the most amazing gift you can ever give to anyone. My heart breaks when I hear of so many young girls having abortions these days.
I only wish that they would consider adoption instead.
[25.08.2004 15:09 - mandip]
| my adoption story |
My family just adopted a baby at the age of 3 months. Her bilogical mom is 22 years old and she is border line mentally retarted. She used to do really mean things to the baby. She would put nose sucker down the babies throat. She put a pillow over the babies head and said I will give you things to cry about and way more things.
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[02.07.2004 04:25 - rudywitabooti]
| Married to an adoptee |
My side of the story
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[11.05.2004 13:07 - Charlie]
| I've been there.... |
I have a wonderful life. But it hasn't always been easy. I am an adopted child, who later in life put her own child up for adoption. I have experienced two sides to the adoption process and I know the heart ache and frustration a person can go through. But I am here to tell you, it will get better. I don't mean that the feelings ever go away completely, but it gets easier, as I have found.
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[03.05.2004 00:52 - mcjade02]
| My Adoption Story |
On the 28 January 2000, my youngest daughter (then age 20, a unmarried mother) gave birth to a baby girl. When she came home from the hospital, she just about threw the baby into my arms. The baby was not even a full two months old when she left the baby and went to Durban with some man she met some time ago (not the baby's father) When she came back (to my home as she was residing here) She would go out every night (still leaving the baby in my care) and come home in the early hours of the morning-normally drunk and/or high on drugs. She would just not worry about the baby at all. She then disappeared for about 3 mths. When she finally contracted me, I went to the place where she was currently residing and asked her, if I could adopt the baby. She agreed to allow me to adopt the baby.
I went to the court and got the required documents, and then went to her place topick her up and then took her, with me back to the court, where she signed the documents (to give the baby up for adoption) and I signed documents to adopt the baby.
The adoption was legalized on the 23 May 2001.
Since then, I allowed her to visit the baby in my house.
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[14.03.2004 00:33 - Patsi]
| Adoptee |
I was 65 years old when I found out about my adoption. My father had already passed away and when my mother died, there was a letter at the attorney for me. Apart from inheriting everything (I was an only child), I inherited the new knowledge - that I was adopted at birth! This information came as a big shock, needless to say. I was extremely unhappy and disappointed at my mother for not telling me much earlier in my life. I was sad for loosing her, but also mad at her for leaving this information in a letter. But the letter also contained information regarding my biological mother which assisted me in finding my biological family. Turned out my mother and father are together and I have a big family - now we just have to "grow up and old" together.
[29.07.2003 17:34 - Marsha]
| A brother of an adoptee |
I always knew my sister was an adopted child because I was a teenager when she "arrived" - somehow she always felt like my real sister though. I was never to tell anyone, it was the biggest secret. I kept this secret for years, but also carried the burden of not telling her the truth - that was actually the hardest of all. The day she found out I was glad that it was not through me and at the same time this burden on my shoulders disappeared - and for once in my life I could start relaxing and really live my life without feeling guilty towards anyone. I still feel the responsibility that was put on the shoulders of a child not to let a secret like this one out, was unfair and not well thought through. However, I will still respect my parents' decision as they thought they were doing the right thing at that time.
[18.06.2003 13:47 - Allan]
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