Why this website?

The idea for this website was born out of a personal experience being an adoptee myself. Finding out by chance at the age of 30 was not what I would call exciting or fun.  Working with a social worker to come to terms with the new reality and overcome the shock that it has caused, helped me a great deal. At the time I decided not to attend a support group as I was not ready to share this news with anyone and thought that I had to work through this in my own time. There were times I thought I will wake up to discover that it had all been a bad dream. Truth was, it was reality, I had to accept it, make peace with it and move forward.

I soon discovered that a strong support system was key.  The process of emotional healing after the trauma it has caused, was a slow and complicated one.  If you have a similar story, you will understand. It can take years, sometimes a life time to heal from an experience such as this. If you don't talk, it will consume you and you can never be free to have a fulfilling life.  Without your Faith, family, friends and the ones closest to you it is almost impossible to succeed on this mission, but to be able to talk about your feelings is vital for surviving emotionally.  And more so if you talk to people in the same circumstances, knowing what you feel.

Having spoken to many people on this subject, adoptive parents, adoptees, biological mothers of adoptees, social workers, trauma counselors - one fact always stands out – people who are not in the triangle of adoption do not have an idea of the rollercoster of emotions that one has to endure. 

Working through these feelings take deliberate effort, patience, loving care from loved-ones and, most importantly, time…Therefore I am convinced that informing a child of his/her heritage at a young age is vital and creates a secure and loving relationship early in the child's life which will be the foundation for a very successful mother/child and father/child relationship.

So, if you are –

• The adoptee – trying to deal with your insecurities
• The adoptive parents – fearing rejection
• The biological mother – placing the baby you could not keep

 This website came to life especially for you. 

By telling your story and sharing it with others, you can play a significant role in someone else’s life and also find that it is liberating.  By reading a story you might find something significant for yourself.  Whichever it may be, I hope that through Adoptionstories you will find something special or touching that will stay with you - for always!